If you are a virgin on your wedding night, although it's natural to feel some apprehension about wedding night sex, you shouldn't.
There's genuinely no need to worry. Take a deep breath and read our helpful tips below.
- Sex Talk Before The Big Day
It's essential to talk to your spouse about their feelings towards wedding night sex, and chances are they are also feeling some apprehension as well.
Get important topics like safe sex (if you don't plan on getting pregnant immediately), preferences, and mood enhancers out of the way.
If your partner is not as inexperienced as you are, it may help to discover what rocks his or her boat.
- Communicating During Sex
Communication in bed it the key to being a great lover. It's natural to want to stay silent, but you can easily go years without being pleased or pleasing your partner, a lose-lose for everyone!!
Give your partner verbal or non-verbal (hint 'ringtone') cues to know what works and what doesn't, and ask them to do the same. Try asking questions like, "Can I try..." or "Does that feel good?", if that's uncomfortable for you (which shouldn't if you relax and understand that you both want the best of each other), try reading their body language.
- Will It Be Painful?
Some pain and blood are normal when women lose their virginity. It's always a good idea to have lots of foreplay. It gets you both relaxed and in the mood for more.
You may also want to have a good lubricant on hand; even if you use a lubricated condom, extra lube will make it an even better experience.
- Will He Be Able to 'Keep It Up'? What Happens if He Can't?
Performance anxiety is real for many men, the wedding, future responsibilities and many other pressures can add to his anxieties and failure to launch.
If this happens, take things slow, snuggle with each other or find other romantic activities to do - whatever the case, do not add pressure to an already stressful situation, it is relatively normal not to have sex on your wedding night.
- Will I Be Any Good? How Can I Wow My New Husband or Wife?
Practice makes perfect. You're likely going to feel a little awkward, and that's typical. Don't take yourself too seriously and enjoy the moment.
- Feel good about your body!
I can't stress this point enough! You should already feel confident knowing your spouse loves you, and confidence is sexy. It helps to have the right body image.
Do what you need to do to feel confident and beautiful, both inside and out. Buy some sexy lingerie, set the mood with scented candles, groom your lady or manly bits, and spend a little extra time pampering yourself before the big day.
Bottom line, don't get so hung up on having everything go perfectly, it will only stress you out. Live in the moment, be gentle (or playful) with your partner and focus on how amazing it is to finally be in each others' arms as a married couple.
Enjoy!