Are you getting married soon and everyone is talking about why you should both go for counseling but you still can’t wrap your head around the need for one?

Not to worry, you and your spouse are not the only ones in this boat and we have just what you need to make the right decision in this article.

Here, we will discuss the pros and cons of pre-marital counselling.

Pros

• It prepares one mentally and behaviorally

Marriage is not a bed of roses, not everything goes smoothly, but the ability for you and your spouse to stick together when things go bad will yield good results. 

You can only know about this when you are counselled about the good, not so good and bad chapters of marriage.

• You relate to your partner better

By this, you become aware of each other's fundamental differences. For example, if you share different views about religion, faith, money, etc., you get to air your views, deliberate and choose which is best and important. 

It also provides you with an unbiased insight into these issues. 

•  It prevents you from repeating past mistakes

It prepares you for individual duties to be taken in the home, the duties of the wife, husband and having children (if it's part fo the plan). You avoid repeating history; in cases where your parents are divorced or separated, you understand and learn the reasons behind family breakup and avoid it. 

•  It prepares you for parenthood

It prepares both of you for parenthood and qualities you have to possess as a parent such as endurance, self-control, and contentment. It opens your mind to child training, family planning, family size.

•  It creates deep intimacy and connection

It helps you to have a deep conversation with your spouse without the presence of anyone except the counsellor who might judge you both or interrupt the conversation. This way you are able to discover new things and have a deep emotional intimacy which is great for your union.

Of course, everything has an advantage and a disadvantage, and with pre-marital counseling, although, quite slim, there are also disadvantages. 

Cons

• Most counsellors give advice from their own perspective

Counsellors that are not well experienced in the field, renders counselling from just a point of view without a birds-eye survey, this advice may not tally with the couple's situation and can lead to conflict in the family. As you know different strokes for different folks.

• The counsellor may be inexperienced

Some of these counsellors may be inexperienced and don’t have what it takes to counsel intending couples.

 Therefore, ensure the counsellor is qualified enough to carry out this role to avoid being counselled wrongly.

• It can create a bigger problem

It has the potential of creating bigger problems if the issues raised are not properly addressed. So, ensure you are both ready and able to tackle any issues raised.

Did we miss any advantage or disadvantage out? Please share in the comment section. 

We wish you a blissful marital life.