Divorce is a traumatizing experience even for the most strong heart.
No one starts a journey I love and expect to have it turn sour. It has a way of affecting all the parties involved psychologically.
Especially, when it comes to an end unexpectedly.
Despite all its difficulties, one can make a decision not to get too saddled or burdened by its effects.
Instead, one must learn to move on and press forward.
Here are ways to move on after a divorce.
Allow yourself to grief
The first thing to do after a divorce is to allow yourself to grieve. Allowing yourself to grieve doesn't show you're weak; it will enable you to exercise your pent-up emotions and recover from them. Grieving is part of healing. So, give space for that.
However, don’t grief for too long. Let the grief propel you to work towards your growth. Maximize the situation and use it as a starting point for better growth and development to improve the situation on the things we lag in.
Learn to appreciate the things you have in your life
The fact that one is heartbroken and depressed by divorce shouldn't make us forget the other amazing people and things that we have in our lives.
Consciously be open to other beautiful things that are around you, and appreciate them. Open your heart to the beauty and value it.
Discover yourself
With a considerable experience like divorce, it’s easy to feel lost and empty. It isn’t the time to fill yourself up with irrelevant activities, but a time to try to discover oneself.
Understand what went wrong, what matters to you, how you can be better and everything else in-between self-discovery and self-love.
Your ability to comprehend all these will make the divorce burden feel lighter.
Don’t stalk them
If you are so keen about moving on, then you should not go about stalking your ex online or offline. Instead, you should start living with the consciousness that they perhaps ‘don’t exist’.
Take out constant reminders of him like photos, and if you both have a child or children; work with counsellors on how to manage the situation without affecting the child/children’s psychology about their mum/dad.
Lighten up
Life after a divorce can be so much challenging and overwhelming. But, you must make a conscious effort to make yourself happy. Learn to laugh more, see a movie, hang out with friends and travel more if you can. The bottom line is to live your best life and live intentionally this time if you have not been doing so too.
Lastly, never forget that time heals all things, the pain, disappointment, anguish, and sorrow you feel will all be gone as time go by. At the right time, you'll be better. So, give yourself time to heal.