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Getting engaged to be married is the highlight of every budding relationship. It is that point where the future of the relationship becomes somewhat clear and both parties are ready to take the plunge together.
In a society like Nigeria, the woman is usually on the receiving end of the engagement and, for her, it is quite a dream come true. For many women, their relationship is like a mini garden that they have been nurturing for quite some time. Everyone loves a good blossoming, just like a harvest.
However, there are factors you need to look out for before getting engaged to your partner or making the commitment to getting engaged. This is to make sure that your engagement is not a pie in the sky and actually delivers the promise it offers.
On that note, watch out for the following factors that could affect your choice of getting engaged:
Understand each other’s Financial Situation
This can be a major determinant of whether the engagement holds a tangible promise or is a figurehead engagement. In most cases, you might simply be nurturing a long-suffering commitment with very little to show for it when the chips are down.
Being able to communicate difficult issues
Communication is a great way for every relationship to blossom. So, if you and your partner usually find it hard or conflicting to discuss tough issues that concern both of you, there might be a communication gap and that is a major red flag.
In-law palaver
What his family thinks of you is also worth considering before you get engaged. While a lot of people do not want to hear this, if your partner is not willing to place you as a priority over his family, there might be an issue- one that shouldn’t be swept under the carpet.
Is marriage really in sight?
In most cases, you have been dating for quite some time before he proposed to you. You must have studied the situation- most of us do. Is your partner really ready to get married? Are they really considering getting married to you? Or is the engagement a ploy to tie you down out of fear or insecurity?
Getting engaged is serious business and requires a heightened level of objectivity that allows you to make rational decisions, rather than emotionally-charged ones that are not in your best interests. In your readiness to get engaged, resort to these factors to make sure your choice is the right choice.