Dear Sugar,
I read your comments and it geared me to keep asking my mum her reason for not wanting me to marry him. She sat me down and told me that he looks too slim and sickly. And that she knows that I deserve better. She said she has a bad feeling about the relationship and that I should look on the long run, what if he dies when I am pregnant? She said I deserve a healthy-looking person, and that she has experienced friends who were married to people like him, and regretted it till date. Even after I told her we had done tests and he's very fit, she didn't believe me. I got very angry with her and told her she's evil and even with that, she didn't budge. She ended with the fact that I will thank her later. I don't know what to do
B.L
Dear B.L,
It's great that you summoned the courage to ask your mother about her decisions to not bless your union. Now that you're aware of her reasons, the decisions still lie solely on you. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to guide you:
- Is the relationship all that you've ever wanted?
- Does he make you happy?
- If yes, is there a way to convince your mother?
- If she is not convinced, are you willing to start all over, especially if you're already invested in all ramifications?
- You mentioned that you have taken tests. Is your mother's reason strong enough to break off the relationship?
- Are you willing to take the risks?
While this can be quite a tough decision to make, you must be certain of them. And you should be ready for whatever consequences that come with your decisions.
Wish you all the best,
Love,
Sugar
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