Dear Sugar,
I don’t feel the same with my husband anymore. We got married when I was 21, immediately after I was done with university and he is my first everything. It’s been 5 years and we currently have 2 kids.
Everything seems so fast and I am starting to realize that I may not have fully understood what I was getting myself into.
My husband is starting to become a lot more spiritual than I am. And personally, I started having a lot of questions about religion. I have become very interested in focusing on myself and my goals, unlike a few years back where all of my energy was placed on him and the kids.
Just last week, I decided to try out a new dressing and dyed my hair. I was very excited to show him because it really lifted my spirits. But He was very dismissive about it and asked if I was cheating on him.
Even though I really enjoy his company, I’m starting to discover a lot more about my self and I’m starting to feel like getting married so early was a mistake.
B.R
Dear B.R,
It must be really stressful having to discover new things about yourself and not getting the support you would. You may need to have a proper conversation with your husband about how you feel and what can be done to make you feel less of this.
It's normal to want to explore something that's different especially since he's the only one you've had a firm relationship with. While it may pose as difficult, stating your terms and consistently insisting on it may eventually result in a realisation in your husband and he may eventually come around.
In the case where you have tried everything and nothing is working, you may need to go for counselling to help you make the decisions that will work for you.
Wishing you all the best
Love,
Sugar
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