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Despite the fact that humans were created for relationship and companionship, there are some friends that may not stand the test of time in our lives. We may naturally have to shed some friends that do not align in our next phase of life, sometimes for the sake of a successful married life.
Here are five friends that may harm your marriage:
Friends with Different Ethical Standards
If morality, ethics and religion form the ethos of your life then certain friendships may not last into marriage. Hobbies, interests and source of income may all be affected by the sort of friendships maintained at this stage.
For example, a friend that maintains partners outside marriage or is involved in financial scams will most likely not be kept by someone who has differing ethical standards or who wishes to alter the course of their life.
Habitual Liars
Genuine friendships are based on trust; a friend that is fond of lying to you even about the smallest of issues may not last.
You should be able to have peace of mind when sharing information with or receiving information from a friend
Best Friends Of Opposite Sex
Best friends of the opposite sex may be purely platonic but there comes a point in marriage that your spouse should be considered your best friend. You may risk creating moments of jealousy because you share a unique connection with someone else other than your spouse.
In order to respect your spouse, it’s always wise to create a healthy distance between yourself and friends of the opposite sex. Your marriage is a friendship that should always come first.
Needy Friends
You may have to explain to certain friends how you are not always going to be available for them through what they consider as tough and emotional times. Most people respect a newly married couple and give them the space they need to adjust to their new life.
It is possible that over time, some friends become family but even such friends are cultured in the art of appropriateness.
Unstable Friends
There may be some people who are still healing from a broken relationship or trying to get themselves together physically, financially and otherwise. If you think that you are being weighed down by such friends whilst you are in a vulnerable stage in your marriage then it is best to give that friendship some air.
There’s an old Yoruba proverb that states that twenty friends cannot play for twenty years. It simply means that at every stage in our lives, we would have friends that are good for us at the time.
Therefore the friends that one may have growing up may not always be the friends we maintain during adulthood and married life.