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Relationships are meant to be personal. It means that your thoughts, love, anger, or whatever emotion you’re going through is meant to be shared with your significant other. But what happens when a third party in the form of family comes in between?
How can you tell if this is healthy and when is the right time to tell them to stop?
In this article, we would be showing you the four ways parents can ruin your relationship.
#1. They Become Too Intrusive
If your parent(s) tend to call you at all hours, overstay their welcome or have certain toxic traits that tend to keep you away from your partner, then that’s a start to a failing relationship. You will most likely have little time for your relationship as they may overtime become too overwhelming.
To deal with this, you need to be clear on your boundaries. If you feel too overwhelmed by certain activities they bring to you, be firm about your decision to reduce it or totally cut it off.
#2. They Want To Be Your Source
If you’ve become used to getting relationship advice from your parents, you may need to start reconsidering. While this may not be entirely harmful when it’s not frequent, constantly asking for help may be detrimental to your relationship.
Chances are that they may start to disrespect your partner. Additionally, you may notice you’ve become too dependent so that rather than sharing your feelings with your partner, you share it with them.
When you notice this, you should withdraw immediately. Create a stronger bond with your partner. Remember your plan is to spend the rest of your life with them. Choosing your parents over them will ruin your bond.
#3. They Are Great At Guilt Tripping You
Quite a lot of parents tend to find the weak spots in their children and act on it. Most times, this guilt-tripping is to make sure you give more attention to them.
Identify this habit and ignore it especially in cases where it is detrimental to your relationship. If your parents wouldn’t understand even after thorough conversations, find other alternatives to avoid them making you feel guilty.
#4 They Don’t Want To Share With Anyone
Your parents will always see you as their child. So, it may be quite difficult to understand why you’re making choices without them. They may be a little conflicted as to why you’re hesitant about doing what they want. For the most part, they don’t like the idea of you spending most of your time with someone else. If this is what you’re currently experiencing, then it is a recipe for disaster.
Consider creating an environment that would work for both parties before the issue gets escalated. Remember, your new life always has to be the first before anything else.